"To avoid the emotional exhaustion that follows in the wake of telling my child "No," I try to remember three things: 1. They’re his feelings, not mine. He is capable of handling them, just as I am capable of handling my own feelings. I do not need to try to fix them. 2. I am not the cause of his feelings. I will take care of my kids by meeting their needs on a regular basis–this means setting limits, ensuring safety, and nourishing them physically and emotionally.