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"We're not alone in this. Every type of loving relationship deals with this shit. It's natural to take advantage and take for granted of the ones we love most. We have to recognize it and make sure we don't do it. Although it's a subconscious thing. I don't think there is control. The best we can do is make sure to make an effort to tell others we appreciate them."
be with… | BGVJ-- this is why I choose to not have a relationship certain kinds of people. I have enough stress already.
Communication is both an expressive, message-sending, and a receptive, message-receiving, process. Failure to communicate effectively can be due to a problem on either or both ends of the process. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be direct and honest; don't dance around the issue or play games.
There's the romantic "Need" (You complete me, My life is better with you, I couldn't imagine life without you) and the codependent "Need" (I need a man to be complete, I need to not be alone). The difference is one occurs after you've fallen in love and even though its sweet it isn't literal. the other is always there, and is often the reason people end up in bad relationships, and their own self worth depends on being with someone. I never "need" a man, but I have found the one my soul "needs"
People seriously need to fucking learn this. Tired of seeing fake couples that use each other for whatever reason: money, security.. whatever! STOP using people and being so desperate to have a partner. When its meant to happen, it'll happen.. Quit wasting someone elses time in finding their real partner and taking them for granted. I CANT.
Maybe this is why I'm divorced. Not that I care these days,one mustn't look at divorce as a bad thing❤️
"Be the First ... the First to Love...The First to Forgive...and the First to say.... I am Sorry" ♥ ♥ ♥