LOVE THIS ~~ Positive reinforcement ~~ Put a cotton ball, marble, pom-pom, etc. in every time you catch your child being good. Do something special when it's full. This is exactly what I need instead of focusing on the bad.
When something occurs it is all to easy to place blame before asking what happened. If a blaming statement is said, everyone becomes defensive and ill feelings arise. When a person asks for information, like a detective, in a non-blaming way, a dialog is established that can help solve a problem in a positive manner.