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It's impossible to not be impacted, but you can control the level of impact. This is you...This is me ... The bottom one is my constant goal although there are times when I am engulfed by the top. The number of times that happens per week is diminishing, though! : D
See this is what bothers me about all self-help, recovery, New Age crap: When the bud was a bud, it wasn't struggling to be a flower. Nin's view here is a human looking-back view that explains old pain and struggle, while still not embracing responsibility. BE the bud and then BE the flower, but remember: Flower not better than bud.