Try not to confuse attachment with love. Attachment is about fear and dependency and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because you're already full.
oh how i unfortunately know this to be true all to well... i wish i could say that 'saving yourself' makes the loss easier over time but it doesn't, not if it was really love....real, true love that you just got lost in