"When your child is having a meltdown, remember, it's their crisis, not yours. Breathe deeply. Calm yourself. Then use a quiet voice and gentle hands to guide your little one through their crisis. That is living what you want them to learn." 'The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline' by L.R.Knost www.littleheartsbooks.com
I know I'll have to say "no," but I think it's good to use positive language when possible. I think it gives more weight when you really have to say "no." Plus it's a bummer for kids to hear "no" all the time.
Prenatal to Parenting: Listening to Our Babies "If you pay attention you’ll notice that babies often try to communicate their needs long before they resort to crying." Here are some tips to help you catch & understand your baby's cues before they start crying. (check out the baby in the photo - she is rooting - a feeding cue)