Do you find yourself saying more than is necessary? Long, drawn out reasons and explanations? STOP it NOW! No complaining or explaining is required after you say "No." A simple thank you may suffice just fine tho. ;)
There was a time when I blamed those who have wounded me. While it's impossible to forget those who have broken my heart...it's in context now, because they have been my teachers. And now, I know how to recognize greatness within the former victims of this life, we are more than conquerers. My Jesus has a mansion and a crown waiting for us...and the brokenhearted are closest to His heart. Thankful I am not a victim, but a victor!