Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda. ...Think of that Garth Brook's Song "Unanswered Prayers"...the lyrics are SO very true..Many x I have looked back & thought "THANK YOU GOD" 4 not answering my prayers @ certain x in my life...growing up..& experience will teach u this too, my Haley.~ 7/28/13 -Mommy (kjm)
THIS is a debilitating side effect of living with a narcissist for 30 years. You never know what they are scheming or when they will deceive you next... but you know they have a hidden agenda and it's coming again and again. The only way to protect yourself is to be on guard every minute. It is exhausting and creates paranoia... and they love that they have that power over you. A very good reason to quit this bullshit.
But you can learn to forgive and move forward, and extend grace. BUT you can NEVER EVER move forward until you have moved through the pain. Wherever you heard that, they were telling you a lie from satan. Why? Because that lie sprang forth from the father of lies and they both need to be told STOP, read God's Word. Then tell satan to go back to Hell. "Resist the devil and he will flee from you."