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57 Major Relationship Red Flags to Watch Out For

"If your partner does not have a history of ever being in a committed relationship and they're older than college age, then you're probably with someone who is afraid and can't commit. It's not always the case, but it warrants more investigation. Find out their history and be smart," says Audrey Hope, a celebrity relationship expert.

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"When we start to take our partners for granted, frustration begins to build exponentially. If your partner doesn't appreciate you, eventually this could cause the end of the relationship," Honaman says.

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"A common woe in relationships is that one partner enters the relationship with substantial debt. This is a sign of underlying problems like immaturity and undisciplined spending habits. I always recommend couples address extensive debt before they get into a long-term relationship, but if you're already in the relationship, it's something that needs to be dealt with immediately," says Monte Drenner a licensed counselor, certified addictions counselor, and life coach practicing in Orlando…

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"A big red flag is when someone is frustrated or disappointed and instead of talking about it they get physical, like punching a wall or driving too fast. This is dangerous and doesn't help resolve a problem," says Roberta Temes, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author.

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"Notice when your partner's actions and behavior don't match up to their words. The old saying that actions speak louder than words is very true in relationships," says Winstrom.

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"One of the classic signs of a narcissist is being incredibly attractive and likable — at least at first. By the time they start to show their true colors, you may feel addicted to wanting their love. If your partner is bullying you in any way, don't ignore the signs, even if they are charming," explains Evie Shafner, a couples therapist in Los Angeles.

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57 Major Relationship Red Flags to Watch Out For

"If your partner has been a cheater in the past, don't expect him or her to be different this time around," Hope says.

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"Feeling as if you can save your partner is a total trap and can ruin your relationship. You can support someone as they try to better themselves, but only you can save yourself," says O'Gorman.

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"Sometimes people fall in love with the potential they see in someone rather than with the person they are now. If your partner is constantly trying to change you into some fantasy ideal, that's a problem. You may find yourself sacrificing yourself for the person you love in the hopes that if you become what they want then you will be loved back — but that's not how real love works," says O'Gorman.

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"Sexually speaking, if your partner refuses to allow variety in the bedroom or insists on very conservative positions, it may indicate an issue with sexuality, how they were raised, and gender roles," says Davondra Brown, a relationship and sex coach.

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