I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feeling. Even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn't . As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.
People push you to your limits, but when you finally explode and fight back . you are the mean one ! In this situation, the people pushing you to your limits know exactly how to control you . through the use of Shame Guilt. Shame on THEM.