The reality is you will grieve forever. You will not get over the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same again. Nor should you be the same nor should you want to - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
I don't have cancer, but this actually works for any illness. The worst it (Asthma) can do is take my life, but thats not probable, so instead of feeling sorry for myself, i try to be as healthy as possible for as long as possible.