Each of these I have experienced in all the years of marriage. These are difficult to overcome because they surface unexpectedly in my thoughts. The physical abuses were sporadic only becoming more frequent and more violent in the last 2 years as he was losing control over me. He regularly labeled me "crazy" saying I needed to get help as well as trying to phone a family member saying he needed help to control me. He truly was losing control over me as I told others about my abuses.