Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel – “Explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.” Sounds really hopeful, and it is indeed full of helpful and realistic perspectives. Ultimately, though, it’s so realistic about how difficult long-term monogamous desire can be that it almost reads like an unstated argument for non-monogamy.
Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking by Patricia Love and Jo Robinson – If you decide that this poly thing isn’t for you, this is a good place to start doing conscious monogamy well. Note that the book does presume that monogamy is inherently “better.”
Never Have the Same Sex Twice by Alison Tyler – This is a blend of 17 how-to suggestions and topic-specific erotica for each one. I’m not sure if it works, but I’ll update this once I’ve read it and let you know. At worst you’ll get some good porn out of the deal, as I know Tyler to be an excellent erotica writer and editor.