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I am both a student and teacher of wellness...seeking balance and hoping to inspire. Find me on my website: http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com
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“Why wasn’t I enough for him?” I posed this question to my journal soon after discovering that my then-husband had obtained a new wife.   “What does she have that I don’t?” I asked of the page, not expecting an answer.   “How could he do this to someone he loved?” The words perforated the … Continue reading What Is Your “I’m Not Enough” Telling You?

“Why wasn’t I enough for him?” I posed this question to my journal soon after discovering that my then-husband had obtained a new wife. “What does she have that I don’t?” I asked of the page, not expecting an answer. “How could he do this to someone he loved?” The words perforated the … Continue reading What Is Your “I’m Not Enough” Telling You?

divorce normal

divorce normal

This piece – Will I Ever Trust Again? – is making the Facebook rounds. The responses to the question? “Nope.” “Never.” “Unfortunately, no.” The comments garnered share a common theme, that the potential benefits of trusting again are not worth the inevitable risk. And trusting again after betrayal is a risk. Loving again after loss … Continue reading Is Love Worth the Risk?

This piece – Will I Ever Trust Again? – is making the Facebook rounds. The responses to the question? “Nope.” “Never.” “Unfortunately, no.” The comments garnered share a common theme, that the potential benefits of trusting again are not worth the inevitable risk. And trusting again after betrayal is a risk. Loving again after loss … Continue reading Is Love Worth the Risk?

I laughed it off at the time. My then-husband had recently become enamored with a particular style of Calvin Klein boxer briefs after years of mainly going commando. Since I was off school for spring break, I took on the task of tracking down several pairs for him so that he had enough to last … Continue reading Do You Suspect Your Partner is Cheating?

I laughed it off at the time. My then-husband had recently become enamored with a particular style of Calvin Klein boxer briefs after years of mainly going commando. Since I was off school for spring break, I took on the task of tracking down several pairs for him so that he had enough to last … Continue reading Do You Suspect Your Partner is Cheating?

Have you reached the conclusion that your marriage is over yet you are still questioning your decision? Are you haunted by the thought that maybe you didn’t try hard enough to save your marriage and that you were too hasty in pronouncing it dead? Are you experiencing guilt surrounding your decision to divorce, especially as you see the ripple effect that it has on others?

Have you reached the conclusion that your marriage is over yet you are still questioning your decision? Are you haunted by the thought that maybe you didn’t try hard enough to save your marriage and that you were too hasty in pronouncing it dead? Are you experiencing guilt surrounding your decision to divorce, especially as you see the ripple effect that it has on others?

I was good at coming up with excuses. I must send him another email (even though he didn’t respond to the first two) so that he knows the impact of what he’s done and it might prompt him to apologize. I have to contact the police about his bigamy because it is a crime and … Continue reading Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure

I was good at coming up with excuses. I must send him another email (even though he didn’t respond to the first two) so that he knows the impact of what he’s done and it might prompt him to apologize. I have to contact the police about his bigamy because it is a crime and … Continue reading Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure

If I’m honest with myself, I entered into my first marriage with many of these misconceptions. These beliefs made recognizing and admitting to any cracks in the marriage a proposition too scary to face because any faults would threaten my assumptions. And I’m not alone in these inflated expectations of marriage. Over time, matrimony has … Continue reading 16 Widespread Misconceptions About Marriage

If I’m honest with myself, I entered into my first marriage with many of these misconceptions. These beliefs made recognizing and admitting to any cracks in the marriage a proposition too sca…

When I walked into my yoga studio this past Monday evening, I saw a woman with the most amazing shirt. Under a simple image of a figure in a pose, were the words: Let that shit go. I laughed. I smiled. And I reflected back on my day, the first day back at school after … Continue reading Let That Sh*t Go

When I walked into my yoga studio this past Monday evening, I saw a woman with the most amazing shirt. Under a simple image of a figure in a pose, were the words: Let that shit go. I laughed. I smi…

My ex-husband certainly wasted no time. He didn’t even bother filing for divorce before he married his second (I’m assuming here; there could have been others) wife. Among all of the myriad thoughts that crashed around my mind in the aftermath of the discovery, one kept popping back up to the surface, “How could he … Continue reading How Could They Move On So Quickly?

My ex-husband certainly wasted no time. He didn’t even bother filing for divorce before he married his second (I’m assuming here; there could have been others) wife. Among all of the myriad thoughts that crashed around my mind in the aftermath of the discovery, one kept popping back up to the surface, “How could he … Continue reading How Could They Move On So Quickly?

Just Because You Love Someone...

Just Because You Love Someone...

Overcoming Insecurity

Overcoming Insecurity

"We Don't Talk About That"... but here's why we should

I’d hazard a guess that most people think of themselves as good people. Even hardened killers I’d expect have some sort of bastardized moral compass that’s framed

Are you wondering who you can talk to about your divorce? Are you concerned that you're oversharing or maybe not sharing enough?

Are you wondering who you can talk to about your divorce? Are you concerned that you're oversharing or maybe not sharing enough?

Some people get a “good” break-up. They get transparency, conversation, empathy and some form of closure. But the rest of us? We get abandonment, betrayal, deceptions and any hope of a conclusion has to come without the cooperation of the other party. Or perhaps our ex is present but insists on shifting the blame and responding … Continue reading 6 Letters to Write After Divorce

Some people get a “good” break-up. They get transparency, conversation, empathy and some form of closure. But the rest of us? We get abandonment, betrayal, deceptions and any hope of a conclusion has to come without the cooperation of the other party. Or perhaps our ex is present but insists on shifting the blame and responding … Continue reading 6 Letters to Write After Divorce

Eight years ago today, I looked at his face for any sign of the man I had loved.  I saw none. After sixteen years, he was truly a stranger to me.

Eight years ago today, I looked at his face for any sign of the man I had loved. I saw none. After sixteen years, he was truly a stranger to me.