I hope that some day you see the damage you've done to the people around you but considering you are a narcissistic sociopath, it won't be any time soon. your children will suffer a life time because of your selfish decisions.
And when he insists that it is their fault because he cannot control how you perceive his words or actions. Even though he sees the pain they are in. The man considers it a weakness in the woman or child and just tunes them out.