BAD HABITS THAT MESS UP MARRIAGE 1. Talking badly about your spouse. 2. Repeating the same behaviors. 3. Talking at your spouse instead of WITH your spouse. 4. Not listening. Listening is so important. 5. Not saying please and thank you. 6. Don’t say I’m sorry. 7. Being late. 8. Jumping to conclusions. 9. Playing the victim. 10. Spending excessively.